An unsolicited advice...
But... (I know!! Here it goes...) he gave me an unsolicited (but I believe, a well-intentioned one...) advice. I’m sure he meant no harm and he did not mean to insult me. Don’t get me wrong, no offense was taken on my part. I just felt, well... a bit misunderstood. And I know, that no matter how I try to explain to him my perspective, my view, my reasons... He just won’t understand me...or maybe not yet. I believe there is a proper time for everything and a proper circumstance.
I felt misunderstood because his advice struck me as if he was implying that I am rigid, that I am depriving myself of the “best” things in life because I follow “rules” too much... that I do not give in to the “desires of my heart”. It’s quite sad pala to be misunderstood. But then I chose to lighten up for there are other, sadder things in life.
I had to clear my mind of all these questions:
When you try to live your life the best way you can by avoiding evil and searching for the good, is that being rigid?
When you find happiness and enjoyment in the simple things in life, is that being rigid?
When you say go on with life without regrets, does that mean giving in to every feeling, urge and passion without thinking of the consequences?
Has this world really become a lax world?
Have we changed so greatly that what we used to consider as good and proper is now “old-fashioned” and rare, and what we used to see as bad and shameful is now cool and enjoying..normal?!
Does patiently waiting and preparing for the love of your life mean you do not listen to your heart?
Does following the cloud, and not the crowd make you an unhappy person?
Well, I believe my friend and I are too different from one another in some areas of our lives that we will not comprehend each other yet. We have different definitions of success, happiness, “having no regrets in life”, and following your heart.
Just to let you know, I AM HAPPY, I have no regrets.... only resolutions, which I have the rest of my life to fulfill, and I definitely listen to my heart. But I also consider what my mind has to say... Thank you for your advice though! If rigid is your term of my life’s definition, then so be it. I love my life the way it is and the way I’m going to make it be.
Maybe I took this one a bit far... but it got me thinking.
I pray we both be enlightened of the things we need more wisdom of.
Piece of advice... Love Your Advisers, Choose Their Advices.